What does it mean to love? Is it that fuzzy feeling inside your stomache or something more? A couple of years ago i took a look at the Bible to see what it had to say about love. You know, most of us have been there, you fall in “love” with someone, it comes back to bite you in the end and you are left waiting. Waiting for a change of heart, for them to come running back saying im sorry i have made a mistake, please forgive me, etc etc. Everyone wants that movie ending moment where the guy gets the girl or vise versa, but it never happens does it? so why do people wait? Well here is the answer I was able to come up with. God needs to be the center of your relationship. He needs to be the cornerstone for the relationship to stand. Yet most people lose sight of Him and in the end, the relationship falters. In every relationship that we have with other people our relationship with God must continue to be our most important priority. Jesus says in (Matthew 10:37) “He who loves father or mother more than Me is not worthy of Me. And he who loves son or daughter more than Me is not worthy of Me” When we keep our relationship with God as the most important relationship in our life then we will have supernatural wisdom on how to express true love to other people because the Spirit of Love, the Holy Spirit, will guide us. The very first Commandment is this to Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, strength and Mind (Mark 12:30)..To love the Lord with ALL your heart. See the contradiction here. A lot of times people love someone more than they love God and if that is the case the bible says you can’t have two gods, you cant serve money (or whatever it is that you put in front of God) and serve God and so whatever you Love with ALL your heart, THAT becomes your GOD. So in essence if you love someone more than God that person becomes your god. That is why many relationships fail. Many relationships go bad because people leave Jesus out of the relationship and give their heart to another person instead of God. This will always lead to disaster. Whoever you give your heart to, is your God. People do this out of ignorant selfishness, seeking to get their needs met through another person, which is impossible. Only God can give us the love, joy, and peace that we all are seeking. When you keep Jesus in the middle of the relationship, you will maintain your inner source of love, joy and peace, which is Christ in you, the hope of glory. Even if the relationship with the other person does not work out, you will have inner stability, because God is your source, not the other person.
Relationships go bad because one or both people lose their focus on Jesus in the relationship. When this happens selfishness takes over, instead of caring about the benefit of God and the other person. (James 4:1-3) What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don’t they come from your desires that battle within you? You want something but don’t get it. You kill and covet, but you cannot have what you want. You quarrel and fight. You do not have, because you do not ask God. When you ask, you do not receive, because you ask with wrong motives, that you may spend what you get on your pleasures.”
Love the Lord not her or him but love the Lord with all your heart. He shows us how to love and love is unselfish, putting others before themselves. When you learn to love God with all your heart first, then he will teach you to love others. May God always be your Number 1 priority.
“Best of all they went beyond our highest hopes, for they’re first action was to dedicate themselves to the Lord” 2 Corinthians 8:5